6 Things You Deserve in a Friendship
🤔How do you know that someone is a good friend for you? What should you expect (and provide) in a friendship?
Check out these 6 things you deserve in a friendship, and then take 15 minutes to reflect on the friendships in your life.
You enjoy spending time with them: Which friends are you with when you feel your best? Take note when & why you feel your best around them.
Your boundaries are respected: Boundaries help you communicate your values, as well as behavior that's not acceptable for you. Take note of what you need to feel comfortable, respected, safe, or acknowledged. Examples: Open communication, punctuality, mutual effort
You can confide in them: They may not always agree with your decisions or opinions, but they will support you through your journey and have your back along the way.
There's a sense of security: The five elements of security (*via Dr. Amir Levine's research on adult attachment)
1) Availability
2) Predictability
3) Consistency
4) Responsiveness
5) Reliability
You can fight & then repair: Healthy friendships work on maintaining the relationship even when there's conflict.
You trust them: The point of having healthy friendships is so that you can let your guard down and be able to be yourself, free of judgement. Just remember, trust is built over time.
